Judging by the books and blogs on parenting there is a lot of information out there on how to do it. We can get quite caught up in the tasks, getting it right according to the latest research or popular blog.
We can look for fixes, solutions and bright shiny saviours that we can trust in, hoping it will take away any feelings of uncertainty we have have. When I meet a pregnant couple I have one question in mind and its my litmus tester:
How do you cope with uncertainty?
Learning to live with uncertainty is the number one skill I would encourage all parents to develop, and its never too late. Our workplaces have groomed us to lock down unknowns, manage risks and avoid unscheduled surprises. We develop a high degree of mastery in controlling the future and rewarded for setting and achieving goals.
Parenting calls forth in us a whole other way of being in the world - where we learn to accept the present, wonder about the future and learn to live with uncertainties.
How do you develop these skills?
We find great benefit from developing mindfulness skills and practices. Our friend Kathryn Choules at Mind and Movement facilitates local events and Mind-the-Bump is the best app we've found that helps support mindfulness practices.