Article Published in Curtin University E-newsletter | Faculty of Health Sciences | October 2017
21st century fatherhood can be a challenging, rewarding and complicated business. Changing expectations of how fathers participate in family life mean that many dads are more intimately involved with their children than previous generations, and new research is demonstrating just how important the father-child connection is to family functioning and wellbeing.
5 Steps for Brain-Building Serve and Return
What does brain-building play look like?
These steps simply capture how to engage our babies and children.
UPDATE - check out this new video of 5 steps for Brain-Building Serve and Return
Judging by the books and blogs on parenting there is a lot of information out there on how to do it. We can get quite caught up in the tasks, getting it right according to the latest research or popular blog.
We can look for fixes, solutions and bright shiny saviours that we can trust in, hoping it will take away any feelings of uncertainty we have have. When I meet a pregnant couple I have one question in mind and its my litmus tester:
How do you cope with uncertainty?
Dawson makes comment in The Australian Mining Review
We've been hearing of disturbing trends for FIFO rosters becoming less family friendly, as mining companies seek to cut costs and those left are desperate to keep their jobs.
There are many families with a FIFO parent who make the lifestyle work really well - for themselves, their partners and their children. But for some families, the unique stresses from this lifestyle catch up with them - especially mums with young children. Dawson makes comments on FIFO - the effects on partners and the role of organisational leaders - in this article by the Australian Mining Review...
Here's a great paper that gives us an overview of the science of resilience in children. Which kids have it and why, and dispelling some myths...
It not for those wanting a magical solution to raising resilient children :)
Supportive Relationships and Active Skill-Building Strengthen the Foundations of Resilience.
Post Separation Overnight Care of Children 0-3 Years
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Article published yesterday in the Journal of the American Medical Association summarises the issues of toxic stress and children's development in the USA context. This relatively short article highlights the relationship between the science of children's toxic stress and parenting, early education, and broader societal/economic health.
Shared overnight care of infants after parental separation - An academic and social debate in stalemate
It is generally agreed that the important issue here is what is best for the child – not parent rights (see my posts on the comparable issue of the increasing use of child care). The parenting role does not come with rights - it comes with responsibilities. The demand for parental responsibility is highest at a child’s time of greatest vulnerability - around birth and infancy. It is imperative that at this vulnerable time others uphold the rights of the infant.
A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.
John C. Maxwell
As parent we cannot not influence. Frustrating sometimes isn't it! The good news is that when we make mistakes, we can show our disappointment and demonstrate that we are sorry for our actions. Being sorry for mistakes is an essential lifeskill our children need to see modelled. And the sunny-side of parenting is that forgiveness and acceptance is something you can practice too. Children do it well!
As parents we are not only leaders; we are learners too. And some of the best life lessons are taught to us by our own children.
Here is an ancient text (source unknown) that has helped me to become a better parent.
Watch you thoughts, they become your words
Watch your words, they become your actions
Watch your actions they become your habits
Watch your habits, they become your character
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny
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